When You Marry Your Friend

The Word Bank weds....December 4 and 5 2015. Take note..

The anticipation is palpable.

Do you know him? You need to find out who he is and I'm sure you'd be glad.

What really is marriage if not a bolder and deeper level of friendship where none is scared anymore to bare it all and be oneself with absolute peace? All fear is gone and each one is freely relinquishing self-good,bad,ugly,smart,dull,weaknesses and strengths into the hands of the other person,without any fear or restraint? 

It is a lifelong estate where both agree to truly "become naked" without being ashamed because the two have become one.

What is the meaning of marriage if the people involved aren't best of friends of each other? To me it is a glorious elevation of the friendship to a more sublime ,beautiful,splendid,and holy platform,from where 

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Baby,It's Not What You Think

Why do men always use this line each time they are caught  redhanded? Why does love,well cherished love ,sometimes get rocked so deep that the vibrations threaten to,and sometimes splinter the foundation to pieces and smash sweethearts against the wall?

Who really are the "devils" that "force" people to cheat on someone who loves them so dearly? I hate it each time I hear those lines from someone,but then it continues to happen.

It's another weekend.

Welcome on board,let's roll together .....

And so Ikechukwu left for Guangzhou, China to arrange for the production of his  automobile spare parts of which he is a major marketer in the area.At 34 years,Iyke( as he was fondly called by friends) was ,by the standards in the East ,nay in all the zones of Nigeria,a made man,considering his age and what it takes to get to his level of comfort without any political affiliations to anything or any man.

A young guy,nicely endowed,whom chance and preparedness launched into

I Know Courage When I See It

".......that homeless kid,who chose to go to school and do her homework under the streetlight.....now ,that's courage"

That homeless Naija kid I saw on my street,who instead of joining a gang,was out in the fields,trudging for miles through the sun and the rain with his younger brother,carrying a heavy sack on his back,with dirty clothes ,picking aluminum foils and metal scraps to sell and get themselves some of the things other privileged kids had....and maybe give some to their poor mom too...That's courage.

That young girl who,despite her social handicap, refused to sell her body at night along Opebi Allen,Awka Road, Presidential road and ,instead sells micro stuffs to her colleagues on campus to support herself and still maintain her academic pace with other mates.....That's called courage.

That poor woman who despite the bad roads,treks for kilometers from the hinterlands to sell her vegetables and other farm products in the city,just to ensure that her two kids left for her by their deceased dad,completed their secondary school...
..I call it courage.

I Slept With Many People In Your Fellowship(1)

Dada is from Kogi state.He was a final year student of Microbiology at Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka ,Anambra state when he met Collins Ekwe.

Collins was a nice guy,good looking and smart, though he was brash sometimes and also stammers.He usually wore a pair of  reflective sunglasses that made him look like the former military head of state- general Sanni Abacha; some friends called him that each time he wore the stuff.

He belonged to the Charismatic group of  the school chaplaincy,Anambra state University,Igbariam campus.

He wasn't the showy type and anyone who wasn't  close to him wouldn't realize how spiritual he was.He always led his prayer group to private retreats at the monastery, sometimes fully financed by himself or with little input from his prayer group members.His dad was a major distributor for coca cola and Nigeria mineral water industries.

It was on their way back from one of the retreats as their car broke down along Onitsha-Enugu express way that he met Dada,whose own truck had broken down and was been repaired by a mechanic.

They had three cars and one Nissan truck.

In the usual male introduction pattern,they soon became friends and found out they could relate well,even though they seemed to had different beliefs about a couple of things.

Collins introduced to him again the need to give his life to Jesus and promised to keep in touch. It was always part of his conversations.

10 Tips for Raising a Child with High Self-Esteem

Every parent dreams of raising a child who is confident but not cocky, who is self-assured but sensitive, and who feels empowered to make choices and follow their passions. Even if, as parents, we suffer with low self-esteem ourselves, there is much we can do to enable our children to learn to love themselves and to be an active participant, rather than an observer, in their own lives.

1. Start with you

Our children learn far more from what we do rather than the lessons we try to teach them. In the way we conduct ourselves each day, we teach our children how to be. We act as role models and inspire our children. So if we

I Don't Really Want Children

Here is beautiful Yagazie Emezi talking about a rather controversial issue: deliberatley deciding not to have kids.Reasons are not due to health,or any of such things but purely a personal conclusion,as one loves to live her life.

I'm also aware that some men have this view too about having kids.There have been some people who married and also agreed that they don’t want kids.

What's your take on this issue?

Leave your comments below lets get talking.

Can You Allow Another Woman Breastfeed Your Baby?

A woman has sparked a heated debate among parents after she revealed that she breastfeeds both her and her friend's son.

Jessica Colletti, from Pennsylvania, said nursing Charlie Interrante's son “seemed like the natural thing to do” because she was already breastfeeding her son.

Colletti told the Mama Bean parenting blog that she asked permission to nurse Interrante’s son when she began looking after him, after they met at a photoshoot for new mothers. Interrante agreed as her son had not taken to formula milk.

The arrangement has worked out so well that Interrante has moved in with Colletti and her husband, she told the New York Dail News (NYDN).
“Being able to breastfeed her little boy has created a special bond between us all, a bond I will always cherish,” Colletti told Mama Bean.

I Want a Baby Mama Not a Wife

 It was 27^th December, just two days after Christmas 2013; I saw him sobbing like one who just lost a child. I had  asked what happened several times but each time he raised his teary eyes, now red and almost swollen, he’d feel like talking but soon buries his face in his palms and continued to sob.”Somto what happened to you please?’ came the query again. “Talk to me or I would leave until you are done crying?” What really happened to my handsome guy?

Somto was not expecting anything unusual or weird from such a lady and more so, not from the circle as sacred as a church. The car pulled up and the horn blared sharply, very characteristic of Chinenye each time she arrives and parks in the garage. Graceful and elegant as ever she stepped out, and dutifully reached for a beautifully packaged basket of provisions-a welcome present this Christmas period. Who wouldn’t want that? Chinenye had earlier in the month got 3 packet shirts also as Christmas gift.

 Somto had more than he needed at this time. Who doesn’t like gifts? I love it too.

But December 27, was a day he wished he never even knew anyone like that rich lady that always brought them things at the parish.What happened?

Is It Evil To Breastfeed a Baby In Public?

Thurman breastfeeds her baby

What really is the big deal about breastfeeding a hungry baby in public?

Celebrities expose bare breasts in public and grace front covers of fashion magazines and are paid millions of dollars for such obvious indecent exposure.And this exposure for money isn’t the primary duty of the breasts. 

But,an innocent girl uses her breasts to save the life of an innocent baby and it becomes an offence with some people saying they "cant stand the sight"? 

So goes the argument.You can make your judgement after reading this article and also contribute to the talk.Read on and leave your comment below.

We all can still recall how just about one year ago,Karlesha Thurman was heavily criticized for breastfeeding her baby at her graduation ceremony and posting the photo online.Many people were outraged by her action and they did not hide their disapproval at all.

Why Women Stay In Abusive Relationships

There are many reasons why women stay in abusive relationships. Many stay out of fear. Either they have been threatened that bad things will happen to them, or their family members if they try and leave the abusive situation.

 Lack of money can be another reason, and not having anyone to turn to for help. Like men - women are proud creatures and often don't want others knowing how bad her situation really is in shame that she will be looked down upon and knowing that someone will say "why don't you just leave."

These are dreaded words to hear and can cause even more stress to the recipient of abuse who wants to get out of their situation but feel powerless and afraid, not knowing how to take a step towards freedom from the abuse they are forced to endure. There are many forms of abuse a woman can suffer, and sadly far too many women in today's society are being murdered by their partners or husbands.

6 Hurtful Relationship Beliefs By Christians

Are you looking for Christian relationship help? Regardless of the problems you are dealing with, it is important that you identify and change these six toxic Christian relationship beliefs in order to make healthy choices.

1. You believe it is selfish to put yourself before others.
Christians mistakenly believe that they have to put others before themselves. This results in giving too much, burn-out, resentment, and being taken advantage of. It is not only not selfish but absolutely necessary that you take care of yourself. The Apostle Paul assumed self-care was normal and right when he admonished husbands to care for their wives, as their own bodies (Ephesians 5:29). There needs to be a balance between taking care of ourselves and giving to others.

When Plastic Surgery Disappoints

I just got quite interested in this post perhaps because of my profession as RN specializing in Burns and Plastic.Hmmmm...you never knew that right? Ok,you just got it.Plastic surgery has done so much to correct so many abnormalities and many deformities.And many lives have been enhanced and many people given hope or chance of survival due to plastic surgery.
When many people here anyone talk about plastic surgery they immediately think of breast implants or butt enhancements.No,its not just about that as I have said above.

Well I repost this just for you to assess and judge if all the fuss sometimes about changing ones natural features for some mundane reasons is really worth it.These kind of surgeries usually are very expensive.
Some do this and come out looking better(in their mind and the eyes of their beholders) but is there anything as original as ones natural parts and features?

Does Facebook Really Break Up Homes Or Relationships?

Both online and offline it has been reported by thousands that facebook is a monster that has come to tear their home apart and cause broken hearts. Many women complain of their husbands getting hooked up online in some kind of relationship that has been difficult to explain. Men also complain that their wives have been taken away (emotionally) from them because of certain online interactions. In all these, the blame usually is placed at the steps of the social site-facebook,Twitter,Myspace,Youtube,Watsapp and the rest.

Does Sexual Purity Still Matter? (2)

Wherever we go, whatever we do, and how we do it all reflects on God. He lives in us and we are his. Suddenly the dividing walls we use to so neatly divide our lives into sacred and secular are gone. Just like us, the Corinthains tried to segment their lives into church/spiritual stuff and regular/fun stuff. Paul says, if we're Christians, it's all God's stuff! We can't do anything in our bodies and not take along our worship and reverence of God. This is one of the problems of Christians today:They do not want to drag God into their regular everyday life.

My dilemma-Andrew Needs Your Help

My name is Andrew. I’m not a good story teller but I’ll try to let you know what I have been carrying in my mind for so long and would like to know whatever help you can

give me. I want to put across my mind the way I can and need your candid advice. You are very free to condemn my action but all I need now is what I should do to get my life in place once again. I’M REALLY dieing.

 

Two years into my stay in the university I joined a group I thought was just another students’ club as I was told. Back in the village I wasn’t particularly a quiet person but I refrained from certain things like smoking and drinking .I also had no exclusive relationship with any female(girlfriend).

In fact I was a virgin before I entered the university despite

Ladies: Do You Still Make These Deadly Mistakes?

Today I will like to talk about some very deadly mistakes that some women make which has kept them in a very pitiable condition. 

These mistakes have caused many of them their lives and in event where life is not lost, the heart is often seriously broken.

 And when a woman’s heart is broken, it reverberates and even though she is quiet and simmering inside, she can pour it out on a future partner in marriage even after many year.(that is those who make these mistakes and still lucky enough to marry-if marriage was on their mind).

Why Am I Still Single?

Tessy graduated with first class honours from the University of Texas 5 years ago. She has a good paying job and simply lacks nothing. Most of her mates are almost all married now and she seems to be the only one remaining.

Tessy confided in Julie, that though she was unmarried and wanted to, she was somehow afraid of getting married because she feared that her freedom will be gone. 

That was when they were still in school. She had suitors coming in droves then, but she was scarred, as she said.Tessy is wiser and more mature now, ready to marry now. She has her own

Does Christian Purity Still Matter?

It seems somebody made it optional. Maybe even God has finally seen that this law was ''practically impossible'' and has long waived it for mankind.We can talk about it, although that is not often popular.

 But to insist on it, to call people to it, to suggest that God demands it, why that is considered passé, old fashioned, and out of sync with our times.
 

Sexual sins are no longer abhorred by some Christians because it is a sin and offends God but “because it makes them look less serious”.Fact is that God does not want to spoil our fun or make discipleship a drab experience as many present it.he wants us to enjoy life to the fullest,but in Him,according to His terms.

A Load Of Guilt

 A Nice Short Movie For Your Weekend
A Short film about guilt and forgiveness. 
Where does conscience come from? and what do you do with a guilty one?
 

This film was done for a youth outreach event held every three months.

Jesus loves YOU.

Power Of Love,Loyalty And Commitment

Below is the copy of a letter written by Major Sullivan Ballou of the Union army to his wife Sarah on July 14, 1861 one week before the battle of Bull Run. They had been married only six years.

I am posting this to illustrate the power of commitment and loyalty in a man’s life. How unshakeable a life can be if built on love and noble principles. It shows the might of character and faithfulness. And I hope it will encourage or touch you somehow. Do not hesitate to give us your feedback and also share this with friends if you liked it…Enjoy: